Supporting a child recovering from a traumatic event
CBT-based advice on the best ways to help children and young people who have experienced a traumatic event.
If your child or teen has had an accident or other trauma, you are probably wondering how you can help them recover.
The advice in this resource is based on cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) and on research findings showing the best ways to help children and young people who have had a trauma. We have also talked to clinicians and researchers experienced in helping children, and their families, recover. While this advice may help with a wide range of traumas, the evidence is best for single-event traumas.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
CBT is based on the link between thoughts, feelings, physical sensations and behaviours, and how unhelpful thoughts can influence feelings and behaviours.
CBT focuses on identifying patterns in thoughts. and challenging and reframing unhelpful thoughts and beliefs which can lead to uncomfortable feelings.
CBT is great for children as it can help:
Reframe how they recognise and understand their feelings and behaviours after a scary event.
Understand that emotions and behaviours can be regulated and managed.
Learn self-regulation, coping skills, and emotional awareness.
Topics in this resource
What to expect for your child
Millions of children and young people experience traumatic or upsetting events each year. Luckily, most fully recover – physically and mentally.
Managing difficult feelings
Steps you can take based on what research says works to help your child cope following a trauma
Facing fears and rebuilding routines
It can be difficult to return back to ‘normal’ after a frightening experience.
Creating space to talk
It can be difficult to know how to talk to your child about what happened or what they may be feeling. Here, you will find some advice on how to let your child know they can speak to you, and how to have those conversations.
Taking care of yourself
It’s completely normal for parents/carers to feel guilty or upset after their child’s traumatic event. Taking care of your own emotions and wellbeing will help you to best support your child.
Getting help and resources
If your child is still struggling and showing no signs of improving four weeks after the trauma, there are other forms of support and resources you can access.
If you feel you need to speak to someone immediately, you can contact one of the following 24-hour services:
Samaritans: 116 123 samaritans.org
Childline: 0800 1111 childline.org.uk