Social media and teenagers

The digital world doesn’t have to be daunting. It’s perfectly possible for young people and parents alike to have a great relationship with the internet and social media.

Find the approach that works best for you by keeping these top tips in mind.

1. Remember: the younger the child, the more support they’ll need

As adults, we’ve grown up without the internet. We remember a time before 24/7 connection and instant access to information. For children - and young children, especially - this world is all they will ever know. They need our guidance to sail the digital seas. Set clear boundaries that work for all. Be open and communicate together about what is safe to do online. Share in online experiences as a family wherever possible.

2. Be aware that extra support may be needed at certain ages

Key milestones in a child’s development, such as between ages 10-13, require extra time and attention. These are times when young people are practicing heightened independence and finding their place in the world, and the digital space will seem very appealing. This is exactly when more parental guidance and time is needed, not less.

3. Find non-technological activities for children to enjoy

Like all things, technology should be enjoyed in moderation and with limits. Speak with your child and explore areas that really interest them in the digital world - and then find ways to enjoy these in the offline world. From arts and crafts to sports to practical hobbies, take steps to make the real world every bit as enticing as the digital space.

4. Stay alert for any signs of inappropriate use of the digital world

The internet provides many opportunities for young people, but be mindful of the dangers. Be transparent with your child; make sure that you know what information and platforms they are accessing and who they are spending time with online. Stay attuned to the risks and regularly check in on online activity in an open way.

5. Switch devices off at night and half an hour before bedtime

Disconnecting is one of the greatest challenges posed by technology - yet the scientific benefits of a good night’s sleep have been proven time and again. Teenagers, especially, need more sleep than adults, so establish healthy sleep routines and leave technology outside the bedroom at night, where it belongs.

6. Work out some rules together…

Every family is different. As individuals, we all need different things to thrive. Speak openly with your children and create boundaries that are unique to your situation - digital guidelines to allow you all to live mindfully and productively online and offline.

7. …and then respect the rules yourself!

This is the big one. It’s essential that you, as the parent and adult, are a digital role model and show your children how to use technology for good. Demonstrate that you are in control of your devices by switching off, practicing good sleep routines, being intentional and putting family time first.

8. Be aware of the positives as well as the negatives

We all know about the dangers posed by the digital world, especially to children. These are very important to recognise, but don’t lose sight of what incredible opportunities social media - and the internet at large - offers to young people. Embrace the positives by closely following your family’s digital strategy.

9. Have a regular family digital detox

Carving out tech-free time, weekly or even daily, can have huge benefits. Just the presence of technological devices in a room can change how we think, behave and relax with others. Take clear breaks from technology to reconnect with one another, without the pressure of ‘likes’ or sharing every moment with online connections.

10. Aim for ‘digital resilience’

Too many adults think about the digital world as a threat. Yet that’s not how it’s seen by young people. It is the responsibility of adults, both parents and professionals, to help children learn the skills they need to navigate the online world safely. Regularly ask your child how being online makes them feel. If the digital world is generating negative emotions, then it’s time to work together to find a better way of experiencing life online. Digital resilience is built through honest conversations between young people and caring adults.