Depression: A guide for parents and carers

As a parent, it’s natural that you will want to help your child and ease their pain.

Yet your child may not respond to you, talk to you or use any of the information you suggest. They may also refuse to seek help or to see a GP.

If this happens, there are steps that you can still take to help your child.

Speak with your GP

You can still see a GP for help and advice for yourself, even if your child will not. A doctor or a therapist may be able to offer suggestions or material for your child to use in private, as well as provide ideas of things you could say to persuade them to seek help themselves.

School is another important starting place

Pastoral staff at your child’s school will be used to dealing with parental enquiries, and they may have past experience in mental health and depression. Speak with a person who is already involved with your child and express your concerns. This allows them to follow it up on your behalf and offer some personal support.

Suggest a trusted friend or other family member

If your child is worried about attending an appointment - either with a GP or school staff - suggest someone who they may like to go with. Whether it’s a friend or family member, the important thing is that your child has a supportive face by their side.

Make them aware of self-help and reading material

There are lots of helpful available for young people, for instance at The Mix or YoungMinds, so if your child would prefer to read in private, that’s absolutely fine. Always ask what they think will help them most - they may have ideas that you are unaware of.

Provide practical support to lighten the load

Feelings of depression, stress and anxiety can be reduced with the right environment. Being consistent with your tone and approach, and not ignoring or criticising your child, may encourage them to take action, when they are ready.