Parent's Guide to Depression

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Talking to your child

Making time for a chat with your son or daughter is the most important first step to take. If you are worried about your child, it’s only natural that you will want to discuss your concerns. Yet asking them how they feel can be very difficult. It may need some careful planning ahead to help it go well.

Think about what you want to say

Keep it simple. Talk to your child on their level and explain that you are worried about how they may be feeling and that you want to help them.

Choose statements that are facts and not judgements

Stick to facts to begin the discussion on your child’s terms. Let your son or daughter open up to you, in the way they feel comfortable, without being judgemental of their actions.

Try to ask “open questions”

Allow your son or daughter to say how they are feeling rather than give you a yes/no response. A good opener is “What’s on your mind?” and then seeing where the conversation goes from there.

Write down your concerns before you speak

Jotting down the things that you are most worried about can be helpful to make sure that your conversation stays on track.

Try to keep any anxiety you may feel to yourself

You will likely be feeling many challenging emotions about your son or daughter. Yet you need to be there for them. Focus on their feelings - not yours - and what you can do to help.

Be calm and supportive and allow plenty of time

It will likely take a number of conversations to get to the heart of the matter. That’s OK. Take your time and be there for your child, at the right pace for them.

Show your child you are there for them and that you care

As well as carving out time for honest discussions, show your love and affection in the way that your child is most comfortable with. A peaceful and caring home environment can make a big positive difference to young people experiencing depression.

Choose your time carefully, when everyone is calm

The conversation with your child will likely only be positive if the setting and time is right. Try not to force or rush it, but choose a time and place to help you talk and listen to what your child has to say.

Gain the fuller picture

After speaking with your son or daughter, you may also want to talk to their teacher, school nurse or another trusted adult. You may also choose to ask this individual to keep a note of any concerns they have to add to your own written records.

It is always best to be open with your child about this. Tell your son or daughter that you are planning to do this and include them in the conversation so they do not feel excluded.

 

Suicidal thoughts and self-harm

Resources

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An emotionally healthy approach to GCSEs - A guide for parents

Packed with practical tips and ideas to support young people before, during and after exam time.

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An emotionally healthy approach to GCSEs - A guide for teachers

Packed with practical tips and ideas to support young people before, during and after exam time.

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Asking for help

Tips for young people on when it’s time to talk about their mental health, or if they want to help a friend

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Coping with self-harm (Welsh)

This Welsh language guide includes information on the nature and causes of self-harm and how to support a young person for parents and carers.

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Depression booklet

Featuring useful facts, figures and information, this booklet also contains sources of help and what not to say to people experiencing depression

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Guide to depression for parents and carers

This booklet aims to help recognise and understand depression and how to get appropriate help for their child

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Guide to depression for parents and carers (Welsh)

This booklet aims to help parents recognise and understand depression and how to get appropriate help for their child

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Looking after yourself during your GCSEs - A guide for pupils

Packed with practical tips and ideas to support young people before, during and after exam time.

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Low mood poster

Poster created in partnership with Bank Workers Charity highlighting common causes of low mood, how to help yourself feel better and information on where to get more help.

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Warning signs poster

A bold A3 poster showing the warning signs that tell you when someone may be depressed. This poster could save a life.

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Wellbeing Action Plan (child)

A simple, resource to help young people keep themselves well and get them through difficult times

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